My DPOA/2nd mom just discovered the following situation.
So, I was in the hospital for awhile. I had low sodium (partially related to leakage from a couple of feeding tube sites) and two stress fractures in my spine. I was there a long time. They messed with a bunch of my meds. I let them. I figured the hospital was as safe a place as any to do it. I don’t like being on all these meds. And I know that some of the meds that treat symptoms of one of my conditions actually make the condition itself worse, so it’s a tradeoff and I understand why they’re careful.
But I was sure it was just an innocent mistake when I found out that Reglan had been dropped at some point from my list of medications.
Reglan is the only medication FDA-approved specifically for treating the underlying problem in gastroparesis. Gastroparesis means your stomach is partly paralyzed (probably due to neuropathy of the vagus nerve) and empties too slowly. Mine empties so dangerously slowly that I can’t get enough food without bypassing my stomach, and aspirate stomach contents even in an “empty” stomach because the fluid build sup and backs up into my lungs. That means two feeding tubes, one to drain my stomach, one to go straight into my intestines and avoid my stomach. I’ve got a third hole where a feeding tube used to be that got wrapped around my intestine and had to get pulled. It’s the old unclosed hole and the new feeding tube hole that leak too much. Not leak normally for a feeding tube, but leak so much it can get dangerous to me. This is partly due to long-term medical mismanagement even according to medical professionals who’ve discussed it with me.
Anyway, whenever I come in with excessive leakage, they decide they have to prove that they’ve done something about the leakage, and that they know what they’ve done.
Even if nothing changes.
Or even if they’re completely making things up.
So when I was in the hospital, I was getting several different lines of bullshit about why my hole wasn’t closing and why leakage was happening. I eventually got out of them that they flat-out didn’t know.
They seemed very all or nothing. I encouraged them to think about little things — that even having the support to eat by feeding pump (slow) rather than bolus feeding (stuffing things in with a syringe, bad idea with a J-tube because intestines don’t expand to hold food the way your stomach does), changes the amount of leakage I get. I said anything that either changes the leakage or changes the reaction of my skin to the leakage is an advantage even if it’s tiny.
So the things that really seemed to help, were differences in bolus-feeding habits, getting my meds on time and reliably (which itself requires it to leak little enough that meds don’t leak out again), and differences in skin protection care around the stoma sites.
But… we find out all these months after I get out of the hospital, that:
- I’m not on Reglan/metaclopramide, and nobody told me or my DPOA or anyone else why I was taken off of it.
- They are now claiming that pulling me off Reglan “stopped the leakage”.
- The instructions in my chart read that if I am to “leak again”, I need to stop the Reglan.
In the time since the Reglan, I have struggled to eat anything at all, lost a lot of weight again (I know I don’t look it, but I’m on steroids, so…) struggled to keep up my electrolytes, and a lot of it because my guts are moving too slowly.
Reglan is the only thing in America I can take to make my guts move faster. Erythromycin doesn’t work (and wouldn’t likely work for my kind of gastroparesis, given that it works best for certain causes I definitely don’t have). Domperidone is not FDA-approved here even though I would love to be on it because I can only take a half-dose of Reglan due to motor side effects at full dose. (Domperidone doesn’t cross the blood-brain barrier but has cardiac effects. But in a disease with so few treatments it seems horrible not to allow it. The only other option is a surgery that’s itself dangerous and that I’m ineligible for.)
Reglan doesn’t just treat nausea or reduce acid like the other meds I take for gastroparesis-related problems. It actually makes my guts move faster. Given that my esophagus, stomach, and large intestine have all showed slowed rate at various times throughout my life, that’s kind of a big deal. The only part that’s never been slow is my small intestine, which I consider myself very lucky for. If you want one part of your guts working right, that’s the part you want working, because it’s where the food is absorbed the most.
So it’s a huge deal to take me off the one thing that might be speeding up all the slow parts of my guts.
And it’s an even huger deal to take me off it on the basis of something they have absolutely no proof of.
If they could prove that changes in Reglan, and Reglan in particular, changed the leakage, I would listen to them.
If they could prove Reglan was doing more harm than good, I’d listen to them.
But like usual, they didn’t even tell me, didn’t even ask me.It was a struggle in the hospital to even tell them how bad the leakage was. Because they kept insisting they could tell by the number of dressing changes the nurses did. When we heard that, the nurses and I both laughed, many times — we didn’t know how else to respond. We knew full well that the number of dressing changes was more connected to how many nurses were available than how many times the dressing needed to be changed. My tube leaked, and leaks, continuously. It pretty much never stops. You could change the dressings all day and not change them enough, many days. So instead we found ways to protect the skin — the ostomy nurses were great at this — so that even if it leaked, it was less likely to burn and do damage. Because bile and digestive juices on your skin just eats your skin, and that causes as much pain, chemical burns, and blisters as you might imagine. This is my skin on a good day:
Adding Reglan has not increased my leakage.
But the moment my leakage increases again — it changes in how much it leaks, but it always leaks way too much compared to how a tube should leak — they’re likely to blame the Reglan no matter what happens.
Because it matters more that they “solved the problem”.
Just like last August they “solved the problem” by upsizing (increasing the size of my feeding tube). Even though:
- The problem had started resolving a little before the upsizing
- Upsizing is known as only a temporary solution to these problems at best
- Upsizing did not stop the leaking
- I have been complaining about the leaking, as have my home nurses, ever since the hospital stay while they upsized, and heard nothing back until this hospital stay pretty much.
- The upsizing was my idea and connected mostly to the fact that the tube I needed was only available in the next size p and my last tube had broken. By my idea, I mean the doctors had to get all stern and go away and Talk Amongst Themselves about it to see if they thought I was right before they’d do it, even though I’m supposed to be able to request my own preferred and usual type of tube after that point in time.
- They were so confused about what was going on at the time, that they tried to stick a tube of the completely wrong size in the completely wrong hole until I shouted to stop them.
- It was my idea and a “bad idea” until they’d approved it.
- At which point it was their idea all along and it “worked”.
So last year sometime, something similar happened. They had to prove they’d Done Something About The Problem even though they didn’t really want to do anything at all :(the whole hospital stay was itself because they were fighting over whether anyone had to treat me, and who that would be if so). So they came up with the idea that the normal ebbs and flows of my leakage were tied to “their” idea of upsizing my tube. (And my tube was only upsized because the old one had started falling to pieces., it wasn’t originally intended to have anything to do with leakage. MIC-KEY J-tubes just don’t come in that smaller size, and the smaller size was very clog-prone and yucky.)
Anyway… so they did this. They said “Upsizing fixed it” even though “it” was never “fixed” at all. They took credit for an idea that wasn’t theirs — and I wasn’t fussy at the time as long as I got the right tube in the end. (I still have the same type of tube, which lasted a year before part of it started falling apart. Which is really good for a feeding tube.)
Later on they told me that by upsizing then ignoring it this long they might’ve created an impossible problem for me. That it might be too late now because they’d pretended everything was okay for so long that there might be damage done they can’t undo in several respects. If that’s true, then why do this again….
But that’s what they’ve done.
They’ve claimed the leakage stopped. It never stopped. I’ve been having continuous leak problems for a long time.
And they’ve claimed they know what “stopped” it — one medication among at least half a dozen they were manipulating all at once.
And now if I continue to have the problem that never stopped, they’re gonna blame something that I was still leaking, and leaking badly, when I wasn’t taking it.
And the thing is…
I need many nausea meds.
I was taken off several and I know why and it makes sense– they actually slow down stomach emptying even if they make me feel better. If I can live without them I want to.
But Reglan isn’t like that, it actually speeds up stomach emptying.
Phenergan and Dronabinol are my main nausea meds. They’re the ones that sort of hold things steady with my long-term nausea and keep me out of the hospital.
Zofran is a third, one that I take when there’s severe but short-term nausea. I don’t like to take it because it gives me headaches. But it works when it works, and I do take it sometimes.
I’ve been having so much nausea from small volumes of food in my intestines that I have had trouble eating a full meal. Right now I’m eating meals that may not be as good nutritionally as what I’d eat, but are easier to digest. Same thing you’d do if you were feeling sick and you ate by mouth. I just forgot to do the same thing by tube feed. So my roommate started making me sick food. It’s working, i’m getting food, and I’m working hard at eating. And it is hard work to get even a normal amount of food down. I have trouble getting a full 1000 mL a day. I’ve been anemic and protein-deficient and had problems with my electrolytes. I’ve had another hospital stay, I think, although I can’t remember what happened.
And all this time I had no idea they’d pulled my Reglan, let alone on purpose.
Let alone that they’re not being honest about what’s going on there.
Because it’s dishonest, on some level, to claim to have solved a problem that’s still there. Especially when you did a zillion things at once and you’re just picking one of them out of thin air to promote as the One That Worked.
And my GP is out of town, that’s part of how things have gotten completely out of whack. He has a good sub working for him, but I really need to talk to him in some way that isn’t third-hand on the phone. He doesn’t even know (nor do any of you, to my knowledge, because I haven’t been writing about it) what the latest med disaster has been or why, but had to do a whole lot of work to fix it by phone.
And like… I know that my horrible sense of time contributed to the med disaster.
But so have a long string of errors, oversights, wishful thinking, lying, and assorted weirdness from medical professionals. Not to mention neglect from the people who are supposed to be helping me manage my meds. The weird kind of neglect where they at the same time try to claim “We’re so worried you’ll hurt yourself getting your meds wrong” but they get your meds wronger than you do and don’t even notice.
At any rate, my meds got screwed up recently because my sense of time is much, much, much more deeply weird than I understood it to be, and I’ve been ignoring the degree to which epilepsy has affected everything about my life. And I ended up on a weird free-running med schedule where I ended up taking too much of half my meds and too little of the other half, pretty much. Not on purpose but because I can’t track time and was relying on other factors to track my meds. And because I was being expected to do my own meds, when that had been told to me as “You’ll only need this for emergencies.”
But seriously guys?
Don’t claim you’ve solved problems you haven’t solved. I’m sure it makes you look great on paper. I’m sure it limits some kind of liability or helps with insurance in some way or some crap like that. But it does me no good when you do it at the expense of my health.
And it says something that I didn’t notice I wasn’t taking one of my most important meds, even when I couldn’t eat.
And just… can I please just have the support I need to live in the body I’ve got, and not all this other crap I don’t need or want, combined with total neglect of everything I do need?
Because the rest of these many variations on medical neglect are getting old.
And mind you there’s lots of medical professionals who do care about getting it right, and nobody can get it right all the time even so. But there’s so many who don’t care, or who care more about other things than they care about this.
And they shouldn’t care more about proving “I solved this” than about whether their “solution” is just some random crap they did that actually hurt me more than it helped, and where the “lack of leakage” didn’t even happen.
(A lot of this was taking place when the hospital was trying to declare me a non-medical patient in order to discharge me early because they couldn’t find a rehab, among many other convoluted reasons. So I was dealing with things like oxygen sats of everything from the 80s all the way down to 75, where they had technicians come in and test multiple machines and multiple finger probes on me, all trying to show that the readings were wrong, but the readings were consistent the entire time. Because they didn’t want anything to be medically wrong, so even when they had solid proof something was up they’d ignore it when possible. So of course they could imagine “leakage stopping” as a thing, even as they were telling me out loud that the leakage would never stop and had not stopped.)
Yes, i’m writing about this for a reason: If it’s happening to me, it’s happening to others, and it’s bad and dangerous as a way to do medical care. I don’t know which people figured the leakage stopped — often it’s a game of telephone among people who never physically examine me or talk to me directly, but all discuss things with each other — but someone claimed it did and someone claimed it was the Reglan and I’ve been paying the consequences without knowing it.
I’m sick of me and my family getting the consequences for everyone else’s mistakes.
It keeps happening.
Nobody’s held accountable.
And the only punishment is on me and anyone trying to take care of me. And to be clear, there’ve been a lot of great people involved. Just not enough with enough power and knowledge, to get the right things done. (Quite often I notice the nurses pick up on something being way wrong but have to be subordinate to doctors. Which weirds me out because nursing and doctoring strike me as two separate types of medicine, rather than one type that’s “supposed to” call the shots and the other that’s “supposed to” listen. But what do I know, I’m just a patient.)
Nausea is getting old. Hunger combined with disinterest in food is getting old. And I have meds to manage these things with, but the threat of having the ones that work taken away for someone else’s wish fulfillment purposes is really getting old. Reglans’ close to all we’ve got in America and taking it away from someone with gastroparesis ought to require more proof than that. Including proof that the problem ever actually resolved itself. Which it didn’t. (Which we know because there’s a nurse in my home every single day to check my skin and leakage. There’s plenty of documentation that the leakage has gone nowhere.)