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Monday’s Child rhymes.

Monday’s child is fair of face.

Tuesday’s child is full of grace.

Wednesday’s child is full of woe.

Thursday’s child has far to go.

Friday’s child is loving and giving.

Saturday’s child works hard for a living.

Sunday's Child

But the child who is born on the Sabbath Day is bonny and blithe and good and gay.

Other variants:

But the child that is born on the Sabbath Day
Is bonny and blithe and good and gay
Monday's child is fair of face
Tuesday's child is full of grace
Wednesday's child is merry and glad
Thursday's child is sour and sad
Friday's child is loving and giving
And Saturday's child must work for its living.
Monday's child is fair of face,
Tuesday's child is full of grace,
Wednesday's child is sour and grum,
Thursday's child has welcome home,
Friday's child is free in giving,
Saturday's child works hard for his living.
And the child that is born on Christmas Day
Is great, and good, and fair, and gay
Monday's child is fair of face.
Tuesday's child is full of grace.
Wednesday's child is loving and giving.
Thursday's child works hard for a living.
Friday's child is full of woe.
Saturday's child has far to go.
But the child that is born on the sabbath day
Is brave and bonny, and good and gay.

Monday’s Child:

  • Fair of face
  • red and spotty

Tuesday’s child:

  • full of grace
  • won’t use the potty

Wednesday’s child:

  • full of woe
  • loving and giving
  • sour and grum
  • merry and glad
  • won’t go to bed

Thursday’s child

  • has far to go
  • has welcome home
  • is sour and sad
  • will not be fed

Friday’s child:

  • loving and giving
  • full of woe
  • free in giving
  • breaks all his toys

Saturday’s child:

  • works hard for a living
  • has far to go
  • must work for its living
  • makes an awful noise.
Sunday's Child

Sunday’s Child:

  • bonny and blithe and good and gay
  • blithe and winsome and happy and gay
  • great and good and fair and gay
  • brave and bonny and good and gay
  • is a pain in the neck like the rest, okay?

For my blogging topics, this is the perfect kind of thing. There are many versions of this rhyme, so many possibilities for most of the days. And each topic could be a lot of different things. “Fair of face” could turn into a discussion of beauty, or a discussion of racism and colorism, or a discussion of albinism, or any of a number of other things, depending on what was going on that day. LGBTQ issues could be tied to the word ‘gay’ even though it’s clearly used here to mean ‘happy’. (And Sunday’s Child could be used as a discussion of LGBTQ issues or a discussion of happiness or a lot of other things.)

Anyway, there’s so many versions of this that I’ll probably be adding onto it as I hear more of them. For now, though, these are what I’ve got, and any of them could be a number of different blogging topics.

And I have to say I love that the luckiest kid always gets called ‘gay’. I know that’s not the meaning of gay they were going for, but I love it anyway. And any meaning of any of these words is fair game for my purposes, which are to organize the way I blog for a number of important reasons. I can’t explain them all but I do have reasons.

Posted in Being human, Blogging about blogging, Days of the Week, fear, Friday / vendredi / viernes / fredag / Frietag, Topic Themes

Fear for Courage Friday

In Life’s name and for Life’s sake, I assert that I will employ the Art which is its gift in Life’s service alone, rejecting all other usages. I will guard growth and ease pain. I will fight to preserve what grows and lives well in its own way; and I will change no object or creature unless its growth and life, or that of the system of which it is part, are threatened. To these ends, in the practice of my Art, I will put aside fear for courage, and death for life, when it is right to do so — till Universe’s end.

Wizard’s Oath from Diane Duane’s Young Wizards and Feline Wizards series.
fear for courage Friday
Fear for Courage Friday

…To these ends, in the practice of my Art, I will put aside fear for courage…

Wizard’s Oath

This is a Friday topic about facing fear.

Many people who know me have compared me to Neville Longbottom. In that, like me, he started out timid and afraid of everything. But by the end of the series, he’s faced up to so many of his fears that he commits feats of extreme courage. Including deliberately facing the Cruciatus Curse, a spell that had been used in the past to torture Neville’s parents until they couldn’t function anymore. He faces up to his worst fears and then some to protect other children — and adults, but especially other schoolkids — from Voldemort’s followers.

Gryffindors like Neville are known for their courage, but people from any House can be courageous. And I’d argue that the different Houses emphasize courage in different ways, and different aspects of courage, although any kid from any House can of course have any kind of courage for any reason. The kind of courage Neville shows — putting himself into terrifying situations in order to protect others — is both emphasized in Gryffindor and Hufflepuff. Like Neville, I have a lot of traits of both Gryffindor and Hufflepuff and I do identify a lot with his character.

Part of all these new blogging ideas have to do with facing my own fears. So having one of the Friday topics be facing fear makes sense.

Mind you, fear isn’t bad in and of itself. But there’s allowing fear to guide you by giving you information, and then there’s having your entire life dominated by fear. And I don’t want my entire life dominated by fear.

I have a friend who says she chooses one new brave thing to do every day, and then does it. That would sound like an exercise from a self-help book without the background knowledge that my friend came out as bisexual and soon thereafter as a trans woman in the wake of the Orlando shootings. She isn’t screwing around, she knows what’s at stake, and she knows she wants to put herself out there both for her own sake and that of others. She doesn’t want to live her life in hiding. I had a similar reaction to those shootings, like I wanted to be more visible despite the danger. For many reasons, too complicated to explain if you don’t understand already.

When my father was dying of cancer, he said that dying of cancer was his worst fear. We talked about dealing with fear of death and dying. And I said that as far as I could tell, the only thing to make a difference to deal with that kind of fear is to find the deepest form of love — a property of the universe, not an emotion, in this case — and follow it wherever it goes.

My father took that advice and ran so far with it that my only fear is I’ll never be able to live up to his example. He died well, and bravely, and with love.

I have a few friends whose courage has been making national news with everything ADAPT is doing to try to secure rights for disabled people in America right now. It makes me proud to even be able to think to myself, “I know these heroes personally…” and not have it be some sort of inspiration porn thing.

Another friend graduated from college as a nonspeaking person with developmental disabilities and made a movie about it. Which anyone who’s been even just the first in their family to go to college knows is gruelingly difficult and full of new fears to face every day.

Honestly one of my fears is that I’ll never be as brave as so many of my friends and family and people I’ve known. I know a lot of really tough-as-nails people. But suffice to say I know a lot of really brave people and I hope it rubs off on me Neville-style. Unlike Neville I think I’m genuinely a Hufflepuff deep down, but courage isn’t just a Gryffindor thing.

But at any rate, this is the Friday topic for anything regarding fear, courage, facing fears, and things of that nature. Hopefully I’ll eventually have things to fill it up with.

My friend suggested that writing about my fears is itself a brave thing to do that can benefit other people. I think she is probably right.

fear for courage Friday
Fear for Courage Friday

Posted in Blogging about blogging, Days of the Week, Friday / vendredi / viernes / fredag / Frietag, Topic Themes

Friends and Family Friday

friends and family Friday
friends and family Friday.

Friends and Family Friday is one of the (many) planned themes to organize time and blogging and whatnot. This is a placeholder until I can write a better description. As usual, if I wait for it to be exactly right for publication, I’ll never write anything. So I’m trying a bunch of new things, including posting unfinished stuff like this.

Posted in Blogging about blogging

Writing when you can’t write well.

I am having trouble writing. I am having trouble doing most things. All of my energy is getting sucked into survival and I’m just trying to hold my head above water.

But a few tips for just getting things written and published on your blog or elsewhere:

  • Publish even if you don’t feel like your writing is exactly what you meant or wanted to write. It still may be more valuable to the world than staying silent would be. (I got this tip from Ruti Regan. Thanks Ruti!) Your writing doesn’t have to be perfect, and it wouldn’t be perfect if you waited till it met your standards anyway.
  • Think of what you would want to read and haven’t seen written, then try to write it.
  • Use footnotes, side notes, and other ways of separating off tangents from your main text.
  • If you were going to put something in a footnote or parentheses or something, try leaving it out. You may not need that level of detailed information in your post anyway.
  • If you want to leave things in (like footnotes, side notes, etc.) but it makes your post impossible to write and/or read, then consider leaving those things off but writing a separate post with them inside it.
  • Consider breaking your writing down into smaller chunks, possibly linking the posts together, and use that writing as separate blocks (especially in WordPress’s Gutenberg editor and similar block-based editors), or new posts entirely.

Posted in Blogging about blogging, language

Explanations

I’m finding that there are many posts that I want to write and can’t.  Because they all require explanations.  Well, they don’t require explanations.  But without explanations, they can create a lot of confusion.  And then people don’t know what I mean by things.

But then the explanations are hard to write, too.  So a post that would be easy to write without an explanation, just doesn’t get written.  Because the explanation would be much harder to write than the post itself.  But without the explanation, the post itself isn’t going to make sense to people.

And yeah this mostly goes back to language use.  And having to explain practically every word I use to make sure people know exactly what I mean by it.  And maybe if people would acknowledge that English is a living language, it would help.  And maybe if people would acknowledge that words have multiple meanings, it would help.  And maybe if people wouldn’t try to force words with twenty meanings to have only one meaning, it would help.  And maybe if people would realize that the same word can have a different meaning for each person who uses it, that would help.  And maybe if people would recognize the existence of language disabilities (which are not always readily apparent to the average person), that would help.

But for a lot of people — they don’t.  So you have to explain everything, or risk being so grossly misunderstood that it’s almost better to have written nothing.  Because if you don’t write all the explanation, they can literally take you as meaning the opposite of what you actually said.

It took me forever to write that post dealing with how I use different words regarding genderlessness, and that was one of the easiest of such explanation posts I had planned.  There’s another one I have to write now, that’s twenty times as hard even though it’s mostly only about one word.  This kind of thing makes me want to give up on language and hide under a rock.  At least there might be interesting fungus under there.

Posted in Blogging about blogging

Welcome to my blog.

Sometimes it’s just easier to start over.  My other blog always feels like it’s got so much of the weight of my previous writing on it, it’s hard to add to it without getting overwhelmed. Plus I started it and carried out most of my blogging at a time when my focus and personality were both very different from today. People come to expect a certain type of posts, or a certain range of topics, and you start to feel hemmed in.  Even when you want to say “To hell with it, I’ll write what I want,” you still get stuck in a rut. This blog is my experiment in breaking out of that rut.

Seeing as it’s an experiment, I don’t know where it’ll go. I don’t know if this will be the last post. I get some serious posting inertia when it comes to blogging, but you never know. I don’t even know who’s going to be interested in reading this, other than people who know me already. I may even forget the blog exists. Stranger things have happened to me online.

So let’s see where this goes, if anywhere at all. Either way it’ll be interesting.

Oh yeah, and “cussin’ and discussin'” was one of my dad’s pet expressions. And it’s not a bad description of what goes on, on the average blog. 🙂